Recently the topic of chivalry has been discussed between my Husband and I. We pondered about the idea of chivalry, what it literally means, its breakdown in our modern society and how we can build it up again within our own home.
|1.||the combination of qualities expected of an ideal knight, especially courage, honour, justice, and a readiness to help the weak|
|2.||courteous behaviour, especially towards women|
|3.||the medieval system and principles of knighthood|
|4.||knights, noblemen, etc, collectively|
Please read this article posted by Mrs June Fuentes at A Wise Woman Builds Her Home. The article deals with 'Teaching Boys Chivalry'.
Our discussion grew after my account of a recent occasion were myself and the children where in another family members home and we were invited to stay for a light lunch. The home we were in is a modestly sized cottage and therefore has no room for a dining table; meals are simply eaten on laps whilst sitting comfortably on the sofa. We were delighted to be asked for lunch and as we were very hungry we readily said "yes please!"
Whilst I was in the kitchen helping to prepare the food, my children and two other family members were sitting in the sitting room; I would just like to add here that the family had already eaten their food. Whilst I finished preparing our food, the mother of the family went into the sitting room and asked the seventeen year old son to please give up his seat so that the children and I could sit to eat our lunch. "Urgh, why do I have to give up my seat, I'm trying to watch the TV!" replied the son. To say I was cross at overhearing this loud comment would be rather an understatement! To make matters worse the father of the son said nothing at the time and later on went on to defend his sons bad attitude! Insisting instead that it was wrong of the mother to attempt to ask her 'adult' son to give up his seat for children! The father gave up his seat and went about his daily business, this enabled the children and I to sit on the sofa and eat our lunch whilst the mother of this young man sat upon a wooden storage box within the same room...the young man in question never moved from his seat!
I was absolutely astonished! Is this the kind of 'man' our society is raising? A young man so lazy and arrogant that they think solely of their own comfort and will? My husband and I discussed this issue in depth; asking ourselves how we intended to demonstrate and train our sons to be chivalrous and gracious men. My Husband lovingly demonstrates chivalry to me, daily to our children. We hope that with the Lords guidance that we will raise our sons to be gracious, honourable, masculine and noble men...and in a world such as we live in today, they are sorely needed!