One Of Americas Largest Families - The Bates
Most have you will have guessed by the title of this post what I am talking about! I was completely surprised at having this question directed at myself and Brian since the birth of our daughter six weeks ago. It completely caught us off guard! We thought that only families with four or more got asked this question!
The last incident occured several days ago, where an unknown man congratulated us on the birth of our daughter. He then proceeded to ask us "So are you done now?", whilst looking at our other two children. I'm sure that the gentleman in question was not meaning to sound rude; but to me it was very close to it! Is it now acceptable to openly question a strangers choice regarding the number of children they wish to have? Is hoping for more children really that shocking? Is it not thought offensive to ask that question in front of our children or at all?
Is three really that many?
My husband and I decided some time ago that we would trust the Lord with our whole lives; including the area of our fertility and family size. Our family has studied the Bible in depth on this topic and are convicted that our Lord is the one who opens and closes the womb and that the Bible teaches against abortion and all forms birth control. From our understanding of the Bible we believe that the only times a man and wife are instructed to abstain from intimate relations with one another is for: seven specific days during a womans monthly cycle, after the birth of a child and during times of marital stress; not to avoid pregnancy. As Bible believing Christians we understand that children are blessings bestowed upon us by our Heavenly Father. We seek to wholeheartedly receive each 'gift' from Him with praise and thankfulness.
So No...Lord willing, we are NOT done!
Lo, children are an heritage of the Lord: and the fruit of the womb is his reward.
As arrows are in the hand of a mighty man; so are]children of the youth.
Happy is the man that hath his quiver full of them: they shall not be ashamed, but they shall speak with the enemies in the gate.
KJV - Psalm 127: 3-5